Wednesday, January 4, 2017

January 4, 2007

Hello, MK, EM, KI, and JM.

It was Grammy’s birthday on Friday.  I don’t do much for my birthday anymore.  I can’t remember the last birthday when we were all together.  That is what I loved about my birthdays.  I never wanted anything, just family being together.

Make sure you always remember your parents birthdays.  And make an effort to see them if you can, and if you cannot then pick up a phone a call them.  Don’t text them, or worse yet, as my son does, forget to text then lie about it.  Make sure you at least send them a card even if you have to email it.  

It is very hard for a mother to be ignored by her children on her birthday.

Promise that you will never do that.

Without your parents, you wouldn’t be where you are right now.  For one day a year you can find time to recognize them, even if you aren’t happy with them.   

It is the least you owe them.

Love Grammy and Papa

Tuesday, December 27, 2016

December 27, 2016

Hello, MK, EM, KI, and JM.

We spent Christmas with your Aunt Kim, Maddie, Meghan, your new Uncle Chris, and his family.  We missed seeing you.  We loved Christmas when we were all together as a family.

I am very sorry that you don’t get to see your cousins.  I remember how close you all were before the Troubles.  I feel especially bad for Meghan.  She misses EM so much.  I remember when we took the two of you apple picking.  I hope that is a good memory for you.

I love all four of you and miss you so much.

Love Grammy and Papa

Monday, December 26, 2016

December 26, 2016

Hello, MK, EM, KI, and JM.  I have to use abbreviations instead of your names.  I am putting this on the Internet, and, while I am taking every precaution to make sure no one but you can read it, nothing is completely safe on the Internet.

I am writing this on December 26, 2016.  This is my first of what may be many entries.  I am writing them so you will know that, despite my not being able to see you, I love you, and think of you every day.  So this is a record of what I would say to you if I could.  I do hope someday you will read these words and know you have always been in my heart.

EM and Kl I am very sorry what happened on the Monday before Christmas.  I know your mother is angry with me.  Truthfully, I have never understood why.  On a Monday we were talking on the phone like mother and daughter.  A few days later she stopped answering the phone or answering my texts.  We did have moments after that, KI’s birthday, EM’s first communion, that we were mother and daughter again, but something happened after your great grandfather Jim died.  From that day forward you mother has not wanted us part of your life. Why she reached this decision, I do not know.  We did exchange some angry e-mails at that time.  As you know, mothers and daughters do fight, but they also forgive.  Your mother chose not to forgive.

I hope you did not get in trouble for being with us.  We had come to your house to give you gifts before then and did not have a confrontation.  But we must respect your mother’s wishes and not come to the house to see you, even if it does break our hearts not to spend time with you.  Nothing, and one one, will ever change my love for you.

All I can do is send you these words, from the past, so you will know I love you.  I don’t know when, or if, you will read them.  I pray you do.

We will be sending you all, on your birthdays, and at Christmas, cards with money.  It is your choice if you tend to share this with your parents.  We will post pictures of the card, and the money, and videos showing we sent it.  Once it arrives at your house, we have no control over if your mother intercepts it and does not give you the money.  Sorry, but this is the best solution I can fathom at this time.

Just remember one thing above all others.  No matter what happens do not turn your backs on one another or your parents.  Your family is all you have when everything else is stripped away.

I love you MK, EM, KI, and JM.  I wish I could see your right now and tell you that.  

Love Grammy and Papa